"He Was a Boy, She Was a Girl. Can I Make It Anymore Obvious?"

In the words of the ever so influential 2000's rock singer Avril Lavigne, we really were just a boy and a girl. Two people just maneuvering through life. Next thing we knew we were telling each other we couldn't imagine ourselves without one another. 

Here's how my boyfriend and I came together:

It all started last year around the month of December. We met on an online dating site. This shy, yet calm and collected guy made the decision to message me. Right off the bat- we got along really well. When we had our first phone call, I was blown away. Through the kind of conversations we had and even with the way he spoke, my attractions grew. He was respectful, kind, funny, communicative, and honest. All of the qualities I was looking for in a potential partner. There was one last thing I needed though. To actually see what he looked like!

The photo he had on his profile showed his body but not his face. No matter how much I asked; this (then) mystery man would refuse to reveal himself! At this point, I proceeded our conversations with caution. He could be catfishing me for all I know! Or trying to steal my kidneys! Nevertheless I continued text messaging with him for the next few weeks. He eventually asks if would like to go on a date with him to the movie theatre. 

At this point I was like:  

Source: knowyourmeme.com


A part of me was scared but yet-I was willing to give Mr. Mystery Man a chance to take me out on the condition that he reveal himself! After much hesitation from my boyfriends side, he finally did show himself to me. The hesitation came from a place of insecurity since he has cerebral palsy. Little did he know though, that prior to his reveal- I searched through his social media to find more information on him (to essentially know he was a real person) and already knew he had a disability. We then proceeded to have one of the most relaxing and genuinely nice dates I've ever had. And I got to keep my kidneys!

Takeaways:

  • Be weary of who you speak to on the Internet for your safety and protection even if they do turn out to be real people.
  • If someone is truly interested in you, they'll like you for you. All insecurities included.


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